Some girls find the handjob a struggle. But it doesn’t have to be. There are a lot of reasons as to why a handjob may not go well. If you haven’t read our how to give a handjob guide, start there. If that doesn’t help, well, you may need to look into these four basic handjob tips to help.
For the record, some guys may be lost causes with the handjob. It’s rare, but it does happen. If the guy is a bit older or taking medications, he may be harder to jerk off.
But many times, if you are having trouble giving him a handjob orgasm, there are little tweaks that can help a ton.
Watch Him Jerk Off
It’s so basic. And so obvious.
If you watch him jerk off, you can get the core motion and grip down pretty fast. I realize this may seem super awkward, but lots of guys enjoy jerking off in front of girls. So it’s not a ludicrous request to ask him to do so.
It’s important to establish that you’re doing it because you want to enjoy the moment, or learn better handjob techniques, rather than you him thinking you don’t want to touch him.
When a guy gives himself a handjob, he isn’t likely to get into the eroticism you should deploy. In other words, he won’t glide his fingers over his dick and talk dirty to himself.
Instead, you’re looking to glean motions off the experience. How tight is the grip? Does he grip high or low or middle? What’s his speed? Does he speed up when his body tightens up?
You want to get the core handjob techniques that he likes down, then build from there.
He’ll enjoy jerking off in front of you, particularly if he understands your into it and trying to learn how to give a better handjob.
Use More Erotic Talk
Talk dirty to him.
Erotic talk is a great way to spice up any sexual act, including the handjob. But erotic talk is a mental play and you need to understand your guy’s mentality prior. Does he like to be dominant or submissive? The handjob can be an act that has you, the giver of handjob, as the dominant.
When you talk dirty, do it close to his ear so he can experience your breathing. Or make sure you look into his eyes. It really depends on what gets him off.
It may be a bit less of a turn on if you ask him what type of talk he likes. You can just play around and see what he responds to. Or, consider your sexual relationship. Does he prefer to dominate you or does he like it when you are more aggressive?
Does he worship you sexually?
Its a matter of considering the entire sexual portfolio and then using that in your erotic handjob talk.
Let Him Feel You Up
Guys love to touch you. Because, of course, they do.
There is something to be said for the handjob that happens as the girl sits over the guy. Its sexy and hot.
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That said, it can sometimes take away the pleasure of experiencing touch.
If you normally give him a handjob while sitting on his thighs, move down so that he has access to grabbing your tits and ass.
Just a slight positional move towards him means he can feel your body and that may lead to a more explosive handjob cum session.
Touch More Of Him
Many girls think that when they give a handjob, they should put 100% focus on the dick.
That makes sense, but in the end, the entire body is a playground that can help amp up the experience and lead to a massive handjob cum session.
All body parts near the dick, including the upper thighs and lower abdomen, are sensitive areas. Those areas have heightened sensitivity during a handjob. So grazing them with your fingers, or fully massaging them, can help contribute to a hotter handjob.
Improving a handjob technique so that your man or handjob partner has an explosive cum typically requires only slight modifications.