Bad Handjobs: Why It’s Mostly The Guy’s Fault

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Handjobs are amazing. Of course seeing we are a handjob dating site, us feeling this way is of no big surprise.

But many guys complain about “bad handjobs.” Lets be honest, even a bad handjob is far better than no handjob at all.

But what if I told you that “bad handjobs” were more the fault of the receiver than that of the giver?

It’s true. And it can be fixed if you’re willing to fix it.

There are two main reasons that the handjob receiver is at fault for the bad handjob. Read through each and notice we’ve offered up solutions to help. That’s becasue we are awesome.

Handjobs Are Often Given To Avoid Blowjobs, Sex

The number reason that handjobs can suck is due to our perception of the handjob. We (guys) have created a stigma associated with them.

I’ll explain.

fixing bad handjobsWe tend to blame the girl for the bad handjob. But what do we expect when we stigmatize her handjobs as “she just doesn’t want to give us a blowjob?”

Look, we can debate the blowjob vs. the handjob all day. But none of that matters. If she’s giving you a handjob and you keep talking about how you’d really like a blowjob, you alienate the great benefits of the handjob. And when that happens, she begins to think her handjob is not that fun for you. When she thinks that, she loses the passion to jerk you off.

Guys have created a perception that a handjob is slumming it, or second-rate. Girls pick up on the vibe and just feel like there’s no way to make the handjob super erotic fun. Because, again, we’ve conveyed this idea through our behavior.

The solution is simple (and should be obvious at this juncture). Stop pressing for “more” during a handjob. If she’s giving you a handjob, tell her how amazing it is. Give her feedback. Ask her to do more with the handjob, like massage your balls or glide her fingers across the top. The more you are into the handjob, the more she’ll be into the handjob, and the more she’ll be into you.

This will have a carry-over effect as well. It will mean more passionate sex and blowjobs.

Stop making the handjob out as a gateway sex act. Stop associating it with how much she’s into you. If she’s going to let your cum fly on her wrist, she’s into you.

Handjobs Can Feel Mechanical, Less Passionate

Some girls give handjobs as a way to “do something” without “doing too much.” Clearly, giving an exceptional, mind-blowing handjob takes work and effort and even passion. But if the girl isn’t into the handjob giving, then it may feel like a mechanical, robotic experience.

If she’s just rubbing her hand at the same speed and not instituting eye contact or erotic talk, the handjob may take on a desperation feel. In other words, she just wants the handjob over.

Mechanical handjobs usually point to something more problematic in the relationship. When a girl is into a guy, she’s going to enjoy watching him squirm and hearing him moan. She’ll read his body during the handjob and take cues for adjusting her handjob technique.

To fix mechanical handjobs, the couple must approach existing relationship issues. Is there something more you can do to help her feel excited about the relationship?

Are you passionate towards her?

Clearly, we can’t dissect each and every relationship quandary in one article. We can only say that if there are relationship issues, they typically come out during sex acts.

Increasing relationship communication during non-sex times is the best way forward. While none of us want to consider relationship counseling, sometimes such a thing can help prompt meaningful exchanges.

Now, if the mechanical handjobs are coming from a girl who you just met, it could be she just thinks you like it that way. Or, she’s feeling a little awkward during the jerk. But again, healthy communication probably exist at the center of this issue as well.

In any case, talking more during the handjob (giving her feedback that you are enjoying it) and talking more outside of sex (you know, during dinner and whatnot) may help stimulate more passion all around.

Try to plan more romantic fun. Take her to a nice dinner, buy her flowers and later on that night, see if the handjob gets a little more “oomph.”

Conclusion

For the most part, us guys have ruined handjobs. When a hot girl is stroking us and the only feedback she gets is “can you give me a blowjob,” she begins to see the handjob as an inferior sex act.

Be more passionate while she gives you a handjob. Be more thankful and exicted. Don’t view the handjob as a gateway to everything else.